June 6, 2020

Internet Monk Radio Podcast 14

Internet Monk Radio Podcast 14. Minor League Baseball. Guilt by Association continued. Leaving/Finding a church. College Boy. Apologies.


  1. Ouch! Man, I hope my bad questions didn’t ruin the entire day! 😉
    In all seriousness, thanks for taking the time to answer them. Ambiguous questions can sometimes get the best responses.

  2. Brian Pendell says

    One reason why people leave churches is the increased segmentation — churches no longer reach out to the entire surrounding community but select specific “audiences” to aim at.

    And if you don’t fit the profile, you will feel very uncomfortable. In fact, some PDL churches specifically say that — the church has a vision and if you don’t fit that vision, you aren’t welcome. I personally have witnessed pograms where older church members have been made uncomfortable to the point of leaving .. after all, we’ve got to reshape to reach out to our target audience, and if you don’t agree, you need to leave.

    It seems to me that more and more a church is not a “community” but a business. A business that is quite happy to have your work as long as you want to give it … and if you don’t, well, don’t let the door bump you on the way out. Maybe if you’re lucky, someone will give you a call one time five years after you left. Then again, maybe not. Nobody actually cares what happens to you or where you’ve gone. You were a resource while you were there, and now that you’re gone you don’t exist.


    Brian P.

  3. One thing that has commonly come to mind, when looking at churches even your own, is the question, “Would you feel confident that if you brought an unbeliever to church on an average Sunday, would they hear the Gospel, or would they hear about monetary success, self esteem, or something else that isn’t the Gospel?”

  4. Michael,

    We delivered our eldest daughter into the hands of state education this week– New Mexico State, where she’s going to be a music major. This has been very, very hard. We get along great with her, and it’s a big hole in our hearts to have her absent. It’s 400 miles from home, so we can’t just drop in on her or anything. So, I feel your pain this week. (No relatives have died in the past year, but our longtime family dog just died last week, so there’s that little bit o’ sadness too!) Good thing that Alltel has a family plan for multiple cell phones…

    Still hanging on at our middle-sized church that wants to be a mega, but is struggling to hold it together during our building program…

  5. I hear you on the college thing Michael. My oldest daughter is a high school senior this year. One more year. Wow. I know I’m going to cry, Lord help me.

    Your son’s excited about St. Patrick’s huh? He will be in very good company there. The pastor is a very good friend of mine and I know several of their members as well. Please retract your prayers for the Presbyterians. 🙂

    Peace and Grace be with you man.