July 12, 2020

Johnny the Outlaw

“Bloody Bill” Anderson, Missouri bushwacker

Johnny the Outlaw

When most people think of hospice, they imagine elderly people living out their last days. But we’ve had a run of young people dying of alcohol and drug abuse recently. It’s a real wake-up call when you sit at the bedside of a man or woman the same age as one of your children and watch them fade away.

Johnny was one of those. From all indications, Johnny had been a wild man. He showed some of that during his two stints on hospice care. He fought with his family, fought with his nurses, got kicked out of three nursing homes (that I know of), and had to have sitters in the hospital to keep him from getting out of bed and wandering down the hallway. At best, in this stage of his life, he tolerated others.

One day when I visited him, Johnny had become paranoid about his bank account. He pestered me over and over again to lend him my phone so that he could check his bank balance. His mother had already dealt with the issue and I kept trying to tell him that, but he wouldn’t trust any answer. It was not an appropriate use of my work phone, so I told him I couldn’t do it anyway. Well, he immediately shut me out, mumbling that he’d like me to leave.

Johnny never cut his hair. He wore long locks that made him look like the outlaw he was, especially when wearing one of his fancy cowboy hats. Tall and impossibly thin, he cut through life like a whirlwind, I was told, and the little of him that I knew confirmed that impression.

At the very end of his life, Johnny spent a few weeks — a long stretch — in the hospital. At first he became fidgety and restless as he dealt with pain and his body revolting against the abuse to which he had subjected it. Eventually, with his strength declining and the comfort of appropriate care and medication, he calmed down. He lay quietly for days and days and days.

During that time, I visited with members of his family. Previously, they had been forced to set boundaries and keep their distance, but now that it was safe for them they came and showed real love and devotion, sitting for long hours at his bedside and keeping vigil. Some even came from out of town to be with him. They told me that Johnny had been a bright, fun-loving, artistic and creative child. In his late teens, demon alcohol pounced and set him on a chaotic roller coaster ride for the next twenty years. He never lost his charm, but it was often overwhelmed by the rage and unpredictable behavior that arose from his addictions.

When Johnny died, I went and sat with his mom and sister. We prayed. I helped them understand the next steps. They asked if I would join their family for a brief viewing before he was cremated. Of course, I said.

A few days later Johnny’s mother called me and said there had been a change of plans. When funeral homes do a family viewing before cremation, they place the body in a cheap, plain box and the whole thing is a pretty sad and stark affair. She told me she couldn’t do that. She would not put her son in a cardboard box. He deserved better than that. So they were going to have a public viewing in a real casket, with flowers and time for the family to be together. I put it on my calendar.

I was surprised at how many people were there. Family from out of state had come, and there were aunts and uncles and cousins and friends — all manner of people there to see Johnny and to catch up with each other. I met Johnny’s biological father, and he showed me pictures of Johnny as a baby. “I held him when he was born,” he said with cracking voice. “I had to be here to be with him today.”

I saw lots of pictures — including many of Johnny as a child when life was good and he won everyone’s heart. I heard lots of people telling stories, and it was clear from all the laughter and fondness that Johnny did indeed have the kind of charm that made him attractive and made his story so tragic. Mom gave me a picture of him in a fancy cowboy hat, locks streaming down, mischievous look in his eye — an outlaw all the way.

At one point, they asked me to pray, and we gathered around his casket and I did. If there was a dry eye, I didn’t see one. I committed Johnny into God’s care and asked that God would comfort him for all the trials he had known in his too-short life.

I remembered the thief on the cross. He was an outlaw too.

You know, Lord, I’m not perfect, some even call me no count
But I’ll tell you, I believe a man is judged by what’s in his heart, and not his bank account
So if this is what religion is, a big car, a suit and a tie
Then I might as well forget it Lord, ’cause I can’t qualify
Oh, by the way, Lord, right before they kicked me out, didn’t I see a picture of you?
With sandals and a beard, believe you had long hair too
Well, this is Paycheck, signing off
I’ll be seein’ you Lord
I hope…
* The Outlaw’s Prayer, Johnny Paycheck

Comments

  1. Just so sad…

  2. David Cornwell says

    Just as he was gathered into the arms of his loving family and they saw who Johnny had been and really was, may he be gathered into the arms of Jesus who died for him, and whose love never dies.

  3. Thanks for sharing this. I have family who fit this mold. I hope they have as good an ending to this life as Johnny did.

    This may hang this comment in moderation, but this story reminded me of this song a friend wrote:
    “Johnny was an Outlaw”
    Album cut: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMbYKbNk7uM
    Live performance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pDqk8BabpMc&t=3s

  4. The way he’s described, Johnny could have easily been a character in Stephen King’s novel Doctor Sleep.

  5. I’m thankful that we serve a God who lovingly receives even “outlaws” like Johnny. But we also serve a God who has tried to teach us how to create families, communities, and societies where everyone is taken care of and no one has to die like this. This sort of story is unfortunately way too common, especially in the US, right now, and I wonder what it is going to take for us to start asking what we need to do to heal this brokenness in our world instead of just lamenting it.

  6. senecagriggs says

    Bloody Bill Anderson; died when he was just 24. See Wikipedia – terrible history the last couple years of his life.

  7. If God makes a way for the worst of us, there’s hope for me.

  8. senecagriggs says

    We worship a God who receives repentant outlaws.

  9. Family coming together to celebrate what this person once was before drugs/alcohol/psychological issues took him away. What could have been….

    I am seeing this play out in my immediate family and hoping beyond hope that this person can pull out of the nose dive before its too late.

    I was in the nose dive for a small portion of my life so I know…..

  10. Headless Unicorn Guy says

    From the title and text…
    Why do I hear a soundtrack by Waylon Jennings?